Thursday, February 18, 2010

....well, you're probably wondering where I've been

I was looking forward to a really slack week.  It's "Reading Week" at university (doesn't that sound more academic than "Spring Break"?).  On Valentine's Day, we had planned to celebrate "Family Day" (Feb 15th to any non-Canucks) and kick off my break by visiting the Kitchener Museum to see Our Body: The Universe Within.  About 20 minutes before we were heading out the door, the phone rang.

This was a call I had been expecting for at least five years.  But nonetheless, it was a horrible shock.  My ex-husband had died in the night, the father of my sons, after a very long illness due to complications from diabetes. It seems he had developed a kidney infection, and become septic.  He needed to be in the hospital, but refused to go back in the hospital, having only three months earlier gotten out.  He'd been in the hospital before that for nearly five years.

Sailor Boy had JUST been posted to Halifax only eight days earlier, leaving 16 year old Itty Bitty to plan his father's funeral arrangements.  Sailor Boy flew home Tuesday morning, and the funeral was today. 

No worries - - we're all managing quite well.  I'm so proud of the boys.  During the visitation yesterday, I tried to be in the wings (I mean, we've been divorced quite a long time...not exactly appropriate for me to be playing the grieving widow!) but still close enough to be supportive for the boys, and be able to speak to people that were from my side of the family, and people we knew mutually.  I must have been glowing with pride though - - so grown up, so handsome, so polite.

Their dad would have been sooooooooooooo proud.  Rest in peace, old friend.

8 comments:

  1. My prayers go out to the family.

    Hugs to all.

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  2. They were actually kind of amazing, Nancy. I don't know that I could have been so poised and together as the boys were.

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  3. Even if you didn't lose a husband you lost your boys father. I hope they get a chance to feel whatever they need to feel. Hugs to you all.

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  4. Good on your boys! And Good on you for helping make them that way. And for being able to support them through this. Take care of all of you. Lane

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  5. You have done a great job raising them to be good men.

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  6. You have so much poise and grace. God bless you all at this time. Sam xoxoxox

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  7. Nancy. You've raised good men, and that's a tough thing to do in this world. God bless you and your family.

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  8. Oh, what a phone call to receive, and what a thing to have to experience with your boys. I'm proud of both you and them!

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